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Maybe it's an age thing but as I have gotten older I have noticed that our children sometimes don't have the same appreciation or understanding for the reasons we "hang on to things." I realize that it doesn't have the same meaning to them as it would to us. After all, it's our memory not theirs. Which brings me to the realization the importance of giving our children the history behind the things we cherish the most. Most children will look upon our things and won't feel the tug in their hearts that we did and will think, "I wonder why mom kept this old thing" and without further examination or thought quickly dispose of the item never thinking about why we valued it. It is different now from when I was growing up when even the smallest item had a story and a value behind it making it important to our parents and grandparents. Too quickly, our children are rushed by time constraints and just want to go through everything as quickly as possible to be done with it.
When my mother passed away, we found a bag full of cards that my siblings and I had sent her over the years. We couldn't believe that she kept them. I know it really wasn't the cards that mattered to her but the sentiment in the cards and our own personal notes that we added to them. I'd like to think that these words brought a smile to her face and that she knew that everything she gave up for us, all the love she had for us, was reflected in the cards we sent her.
The same thing is true of my grandmother, who had a cedar chest that was given to her by my grandfather that she gave to me. In there was a host of items that she had kept over the years, some belonging to my father i.e. report cards, army cap, money belt, books, pictures we had made for her, letters, and mementos of our wedding showers, graduations etc. She marked everything and before she died she gave each of us the things that she had kept for us over the years. I can't tell you how much that meant to me because when you're young you never think about holding on to that graduation program, or shower napkin, a memento of your accomplishments your to busy moving on to bigger and better things. That my grandmother like my mom would take the time to do this was a true test of her love for us. I did the same thing she did, I placed things that I thought were important keepsakes for my children and grandkids. Each with a special folder that houses their drawings, the tiny shoes they wore, pictures, awards and baby items that I hope one day they too will cherish. (Grandma trained me well) HA
I've tried to impress upon my children and grandkids the memories that are attached to the things I hold dear. I don't know if when the time comes they will even remember what I have shared with them but I do hope that my memories of the things that are dear to my heart will give them pause and that they will take a trip down memory lane reflecting on what I shared with them.
Do you think your children will remember what was important to you?